It’s interesting to me that it usually takes death for us to truly examine life. As if without something so heartbreaking we would continue to solely be absorbed in our day to day mishaps. After you loose someone, your continued somber feelings are often times accompanied by self examination. You tend to look at things differently. What you once thought deserved your energy all of a sudden seems so trivial. The people who reside in your inner circle become a whole lot closer to the center of your heart. It becomes easier to see deeper into the lives of strangers you encounter or the person who was rude to you, even if you don’t know a single thing about them. You are reminded that their life is probably filled with real hurts too. There’s a reason behind their snarky comment. One way or another, your heart is softened in the somberness.
Isn’t it ironic that it often times takes this to gain more purpose and quality in life? I wish it didn’t have to be the case, but we as humans are so self absorbed. Our frustrations. Our wants. Our needs. We don’t try to make that our driving force, but it so often is. It’s in our DNA. Without shaking up our comfortable world, we just continue living it for ourselves.
I just lost someone in my life that hands down lived to serve and love others. As hard as it is to say goodbye, it is unfortunately a reality for all of us at some point. What would people say about me when I am gone? I’m sure we’ve all thought about that before… but really, has it changed the way you live your life? The choices that your make? Where you choose to invest your energy?
May out of every hardship, pain and suffering come good. Live each day to the fullest and love with all you’ve got. And no my friends, there is NOT AN OIL FOR THAT 😉. Man am I thankful that someone so much bigger than myself is in charge.